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Archives - June, 2006

Hooray for Fooling Around – June 28, 2006
As school ends for summer vacation, parents have apparently begun to worry what to do with the little brats once they get bored by the middle of next week. So the media trots out the interviews with “experts” about how to find replacement warehouses…er, babysitters…and how to schedule their children’s time so that they don’t get too undisciplined and so that the facts stay firmly stuffed in those apparently highly porous brains during two months of supposed inactivity. Nothing makes me work up to a rant faster than those interviews, which are usually juxtaposed with sounds and pictures of kids celebrating their emancipation.

This morning, I heard one “expert” cautioning that children need free time over the summer, except that it should be the “fooling around with a purpose” kind of free time. Aside from the hidden message that learning and fun are incompatible, this person, being an educator apparently knowledgeable about play, should know better. Fooling around is how kids learn. Fooling around always has a purpose for kids. This educator meant the kind of purpose that an adult imposes…that is, a curriculum-related purpose. If, on the off-chance, a child has really learned something in school, she won’t forget it over the summer. In fact, she might use what she learned while fooling around this summer! However, most of what these well-meaning adults are concerned about children forgetting hasn’t really been learned; it’s been memorized with indifference. And it may well be long forgotten by September as the emancipated children steer clear of anything that looks or smells like school. And in place of that memorized stuff that seemed so irrelevant to their lives is bound to be some real learning that resulted from a summer of freedom to think, experiment, make mistakes, correct them, read, day dream and fool around.
Posted: 2006/06/28 5:13 PM

Growing Up Too Soon – June 27, 2006
This morning, I was sitting writing in my favorite café. Past me walked a little boy of perhaps three or four, holding his mother’s hand and looking very unhappy. Almost immediately, he began crying – that tearless sort of sobbing that means one’s heart is breaking. While his mother ordered and waited for her drink, she ignored her son’s wails. Nobody else in the café could. Two other women, apparently acquaintances of the mother, asked what was wrong with the child. “He wants to stay home today,” she said, “but he has to go to daycare. He’ll be fine. You know, he has just finished preschool and is going to junior kindergarten in the fall, which is so exciting.” One of the women tried to distract the little one by talking to him. She told him he was soooo grown up and asked him if he’d just graduated. He looked at her briefly, then began pulling his mother toward the door, yelling, “Home.” He apparently didn’t think it was so exciting to have graduated to another level of home-leaving.

Perhaps the graduation comment was inspired by an article in this morning’s paper. With no irony at all, the piece describes a senior kindergarten graduation, complete with caps, gowns, diplomas and ceremony. The parents gushed, the kindergarten teacher spoke of milestones and becoming independent (turning from caterpillars into butterflies) as they “graduated” from half-day attendance to sitting in desks and listening to teachers talk on a full-time basis. The kids in the accompanying photo look bored already.

But perhaps the most telling comment came from one six-year-old who said his favorite part of the event was having his mom there. Too bad so many moms are so eager to push their children away, under the questionable guises of independence and education.
Posted: 2006/06/27 3:28 PM

Authoritarianism and the Environment, Eh? – June 16, 2006
Both of the magazines I own and edit – Life Learning and Natural Life – have huge numbers of American subscribers, even though I live and work in Canada; as a matter of fact, Life Learning’s U.S. circulation is far higher than its Canadian circulation. Many of our American friends tell us that they admire Canada and Canadians as being progressive on both topics – non-coercive education and sustainable living. And recent research seems to agree.

According to Canadian pollster Michael Adams of Environics, one of the ways in which Canadians differ from Americans is their take on authoritarianism and patriarchy. Addressing a conference on progressive politics that has been taking place this week at a Quebec resort, Adams, the author of Fire and Ice: The United States, Canada and the Myth of Converging Values, said that the idea of the father as head of the family has been eroding in Canada since 1992. In the United States, however, it’s been growing. In 1992, 26 percent of Canadians said they agreed with the statement: “The father of the family must be the master of his own house.” In 2005, only 18 percent of Canadians agree with that notion, according to Adams. By contrast, 52 percent of Americans agreed with that statement in 2005, an increase of 10 percent since 1992.

Another apparent difference is our attitude about the environment, which Adams told the conference is poised to become “a secular religion” in Canada in the years ahead. For the first time since the 1980s has gained prominence as one of the issues Canadians define as most urgent in their response to polls. That attitude was underscored at the conference in a presentation by former U.S. vice-president Al Gore. He told reporters that he was encouraged by talk of progressive politics in Canada, especially if it encompasses a renewed movement toward environmental stewardship.
Posted: 2006/06/16 2:45 PM

Definitely Not Deprivation – June 14, 2006
I’m just off the phone from speaking with a reporter who called to explore the idea of writing an article about “unschooling”, which seems to have suddenly hit the media’s radar...even if they don’t understand it. True to her training, she was poking around trying to find a clue to the negative aspect of learning outside of school. “Nothing’s perfect,” she told me assuredly. “What about the lack of structure, the lack of exposure to diversity, the socialization….?” I suddenly realized that she thinks that children who are not attending school lead empty daily lives, unless their time is filled up by teacher-emulating parents. I sighed and told her that nothing short of total immersion would allow her really to understand the concept of life learning because it is so apparently foreign to the way most people think of education and, indeed, of childhood. Home-based learning is not deprivation, of course. It is not a lack of something, whether it be structure, social experiences, exposure to diversity, information, facts, intellectual training, or anything else positive, for that matter. It is the very opposite, embodying a filling up of children’s lives, rather than an emptying, exposure to a wealth of positive socialization and intellectual experiences flowing from real-life. This unfortunate misconception about non-school-based education results from a view that a child is clay to be shaped, that the brain is a vessel to be filled, that school procedures are the “gold standard” of education. Those misconceptions meant that this particular reporter wasn't willing or able to hear what I was saying. Nor could she admit that she hasn’t got a clue what home-based education is and isn’t. So much for journalistic “balance.”
Posted: 2006/06/14 10:25 AM

Learning Independence – June 11, 2006
My mother, who was close to death last fall, has recently recovered enough to celebrate her 97th birthday. On Mother’s Day, she was well enough that she was able to be interviewed for the life history that is being written about me for Natalie Zur Nedden’s  PhD dissertation. I’ve been reading the transcript of the interview and have learned much from my mother’s short and sometimes muddled responses to Natalie’s gentle questioning. Reminiscing about my early school experiences, my mother told Natalie that she participated in the school’ s parent organization because I needed her. During the interview, that response was one of a few that astounded me, and when pressed for more, she reverted to her habitual taciturnity. But I think she meant that I needed the safety of her proximity. I didn’t think so at the time and, in fact, remember disliking having my mother hovering when I wanted to take some steps toward independence. But, of course, learning to be independent within a safely supportive environment – and on their own timetable – is one of the reasons why I kept my own young daughters out of school! And now I’m feeling glad that mother listened to her instinct to protect her young daughter, even though I bristled at the attention at the time…and that I ignored those well-meaning interferers who prodded me to “cut the apron strings” while my own daughters still needed me.
Posted: 2006/06/11 2:35 PM

Urgent Appeal to Help a Homeschooling Family – June 9, 2006
In February of this year, a family in Montreal fell victim to a convoluted and bizarre set of actions, reactions and circumstances that resulted in two home educated boys, ages nine and 10, being put into foster care. The reasons given by a judge in youth protection court were that the parents (both academics preparing for careers as university professors) were negligent of their children’s health and schooling.

The youngest boy was diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes when he was three and subsequently homeschooled by his parents, at the suggestion of the local school principal, who said he couldn’t guarantee that the school would help the child manage his disease. In spite of school board reports that he and his brother were doing well learning at home, a dispute arose with the school and the family’s file was forwarded, as a truancy issue, to youth protection services. An apparently inexperienced worker took them to court, successfully removed the children from their home and forced additional medical attention and increased medication on the diabetic boy.

The family couldn’t afford a lawyer to defend them in court. Eventually, after the media publicized the case, the Quebec Association for Home-Based Education (QAHBE) supplied the family with a lawyer. And immediately after the lawyer appeared on the scene, the children were allowed to return home pending the outcome of a court case this week (with judgment to be rendered at the end of the school year, presumably in a few weeks). The cost of legal representation isn’t being completely covered by QAHBE, so interested education activist and children’s rights advocate Marilyn Rowe is fundraising. For details, visit a special website set up for that purpose. The site has links to news items about the situation.

It makes me sad, angry and frustrated that this sort of thing is still happening in Canada in regards to home-based education. And those emotions are intensely heightened by the fact that just today a couple was sentenced in Toronto for causing the death, through neglect, starvation and other abuse, of a child who had been put in their foster care by so-called “child protection” authorities in spite of previous convictions for child abuse. We should, as a society, be questioning the motives and methods of both “educational” and “child protection” institutions.
Posted: 2006/06/09 1:40 PM

A Different View of Daycare – June 8, 2006
An ad hoc group of caregivers will be assembling at Queen’s Park in Toronto on Tuesday June 13, and inviting all 102 provincial politicians to an information session about the needs of parents who do not use the one currently funded style of daycare. Spokespeople will include Betty Cornelius from Cangrands (grandparent care), Bruce MacIntosh (care of autistic children at home), Andrea Riley (at-home mother care, member of CUPE), Bette Jean Crewe (OFA – rural home-based care), Mark Alan Whittle (parental care of handicapped child), Kathy Graham (for profit and other unfunded daycare) as well as homeschoolers, researchers (Helen Ward, Kids First Parent Association of Canada) and pensioners who will speak of the tax implications and best interests of the child. This grassroots movement has zero funding from government, in contrast to the heavily funded lobby held last week by daycare advocacy groups. Those groups have also received project funding from government departments of health, human resources, social development, justice and status of women.

Organizer Sara Landriault – a stay-at-home mother of three daughters – says, “When I heard the non-profit daycare advocates held a meeting at Queen’s Park I realized that the members of provincial Parliament needed to hear everyone’s side of the childcare story. My intention is not to stop daycare but to equalize the funding across Canada for all childcare choices.”

Daycare, like public education, labors under the burden of popular opinion that there is only one correct perspective, one set of needs and one way of doing things. Progress happens when we all (politicians included) climb out of our favorite boxes and open our minds to the big picture. If you live in Ontario, contact your MPP and ask them to attend this session. The organizers will be taking attendance.
Posted: 2006/06/08 12:18 PM

Interest and Respect – June 2, 2006
There’s a new plan here in Ontario to help the estimated 20,000 grade 9 students who are risk of dropping out of high school (or rising up, as Teenage Liberation Handbook author Grace Llewellyn prefers to call it). According to politicians and educators, the key elements of the plan will be to protect self-esteem by encouraging students to take courses they like – which “capture their imagination” is the way the Minister of Education puts it – as well as to provide more individual attention. One high school even gets school staff to treat students with respect and make them feel welcome!

Gosh, it feels like schools might be learning something from unschoolers! Not that it’s rocket science...or anything less than basic human rights.
Posted: 2006/06/02 10:28 AM

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Topics & Passions:

natural learning
simplicity
environment
parenting
creativity / writing
books

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What I'm Reading:

Epicurean Simplicity by Stephanie Mills (2002, Island Press)
Critical Lessons: What Our Schools Should Teach
by Nel Noddings (2006, Cambridge University Press)
Dropped Threads 3 - Beyond the Small Circle by Marjorie Anderson, ed (2006, Random House)
Carry Tiger to Mountain - The Tao of Activism and Leadership
by Stephen Legault (2006, Arsenal Pulp Press)

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What I'm Listening To: 

Where We Live - A Benefit CD for EarthJustice (Higher Octave Music, 2003)
Best of Ella Fitzgerald and Louis Armstrong
(Verve, 1997)
Surprise by Paul Simon (Warner Music, 2006)

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Fav Bookmarks:

Positive News
Parenting Without Punishing
Institute for Local Self-Reliance
The Guardian
Organic Consumers Association
Free2be
Common Dreams
Grist Magazine
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