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Archives - December, 2006

Christmas As Poetry –  December 19, 2006
Today, I’m working hard to tie up business and personal loose ends in preparation for the arrival of one of our daughters tomorrow evening from Nova Scotia. I got a bit waylaid this afternoon sorting through photos and poems in order to finish up special gifts for her and her dad. (Oh, did I just blow the secret?!) I’ve been trying to craft a new poem for the season, but the muse must be out shopping. So here’s the one I sent to friends a couple of years ago:

Snow again, making the four o’clock mid-December lake
blur gently along the wharf’s wooden edges,
while racing layers of clouds hurry the darkness.
This morning as I wrote winter poems and holiday letters,
moisture drizzled down the kitchen window.
In the freezing traces I saw the cycles of age
that have given me the courage to be less afraid of changes.
And now the stone-gray water is reflecting the generous hearts
that support me as I prepare to set out again in the afternoon.
As the Christmas lights blink on in the building next door
and the potted plant promises a bud on my windowsill,
I remember to pay attention so I don’t miss Spring.

In case I don’t get back to the computer before Christmas (a little vacation – what a concept!,) I wish everyone a very happy, peaceful holiday.
Posted: 2006/12/19 9:34 PM

Getting Out into Real Life (With a Driver’s Licence) – December 16, 2006
Thanks to everyone who has sent notes of agreement about yesterday’s posting. Typical is John’s comment: “Your last paragraph reminds me of something I’ve found myself saying a fair amount lately when I encounter someone who is unreasonable and/or acting like they have knowledge on an issue about which they are very much ignorant. I find myself saying, ‘They obviously went to public school’.”

And that reminds me of something I read in the transcript of the committee debate of the legislation, which originally said if you left school before you turned 18 you couldn’t get a driver’s licence, although the legal driving age is 16. Clive Holloway, who is a professor emeritus at York University in Toronto, sent a submission to the Premier and the committee members: “Sir, as a high school dropout who has been a full professor at one of your universities for many years, I would like to disagree with your draconian attempts to force youth to stay in school by denying driving licences.

“I dropped out of a prestigious high school with excellent teachers that I still revere today. My reasons were partly to do with family finances and partly to do with my own feelings that I should get out into ‘real life.’

“Within a year I was able to afford a used vehicle and get a driving licence. This enhanced my working opportunities, and the freedom encouraged me to explore more. One of my explorations led to education upgrading at night school. With my equivalent of a higher diploma, and the freedom to move [that] a driving licence gave me, I was later able to resume my education full-time at a college and work at nights in a hotel restaurant. Finishing my college education with an industrial diploma, I was able to enter graduate school and earn the M.Sc. and Ph.D. which put me on the road to university teaching and research.”

So much for the need for a high school diploma.
Posted: 2006/12/16 4:13 PM

When Kids Reject What They’re Offered – December 15, 2006
In a coffee shop yesterday I overhead a conversation between the barista and a teenage girl who was studying her marketing textbook. The 20-something barista shared his scorn with the teenaged student about the dumbing down of the curriculum – simplifying it, he said, so it had little relevance to the real world. We’re not stupid, he said, so they could make what we were supposed to learn more relevant, more real. And not as boring.

That made me think about the law that was passed this week here in Ontario changing the legal school leaving age from 16 to 18 and allowing the courts to prohibit a teen from getting a driver’s license as a punishment against truancy. Fortunately, the originally proposed legislation was watered down quite a lot thanks to lobbying by the homeschooling community and others. But it should never have been conceived in the first place.

Refusal to attend school is a result of dissatisfaction with school, not of criminal intent. But for almost as long as schools have existed, those who reject their services have been blamed. The word “truant” has early English origins meaning “vagrant,” “beggar” and “wretched.”

Christopher Shute, author of the book Compulsory Schooling Disease, writes in the new issue of the British journal Personalised Education Now: “Our criminalisation of our children solves a lot of problems for us, and absolves us from thinking about the environment we create in our schools for those who reject the schooling process. Yet…their behavior is no more unreasonable or immoral than that of an adult who walks out of a bad play or refuses to pay for an ill-cooked meal in a restaurant.”

It’s high time our society started to respect young people’s ability to make decisions for themselves, and to facilitate their access to what they need to grow and develop. If something is not working, providing more of it won’t help. Nor will punishing the victim. But I dare say most if not all of the folks who are making these decisions went to school, so perhaps they can be forgiven for their lack of commonsense and vision. Here’s hoping they continue to listen to those of us with more of both.
Posted: 2006/12/15 12:22 PM

Is Hunting a Feminist Sport? – December 10, 2006
Women are apparently turning to hunting in big numbers across North America. The last three or four years have seen a huge increase in the number of women picking up guns and sitting in duck blinds in the cold and dark. And these days, the papers are full of articles about them. One recent story in the Halifax Herald was headlined “Hunter killing deer, stereotypes.” I’m all for getting rid of stereotypes, but this hunting thing has got me baffled. Are the hunting and rifle organizations needing new membership funds? I’ve heard a bunch of reasons why women are learning how to hunt, including relaxation, taking on new challenges and getting in touch with their inner “wild woman”, socializing with friends or male family members, enjoying time outdoors, enjoying the scenery, learning survival skills. One woman was even quoted in an article as saying it was great to see wildlife up so close! So is this some kind of Artemis goddess thing? Couldn’t they just shoot photos while hiking, snowshoeing, canoeing, cross-country skiing, camping, whatever?

This is clearly not a simple issue. And I don’t want to perpetuate stereotypes so I’ll avoid gender-casting and talk about myself. I am not in favor of anybody killing wild animals (except maybe for survival, which is not what we’re talking about here.) It’s cruel, unnecessary and exploitive. I believe sport hunting degrades both the hunter and Nature. Especially problematic are novice and unskilled hunters whose targets suffer terribly due to the shooters’ inaccuracy. And I wonder how a “civilization” that perpetrates cruelty toward other species for its own enjoyment can minimize cruelty within its own ranks. Isn’t there is enough violence in this world without women contributing more of it.

If you’re curious, here is a Women Hunters non-profit organization and website. Among other services, they maintain a list of taxidermists. And they’ll help you introduce hunting to young girls via their Young Lady Hunters section. During a recent discussion about this with a colleague, I discovered that a number of books have been written on the subject. So I’ll be keeping my mind open and digging into Woman the Hunter by Mary Zeiss Stange, a Professor of Religion and Women’s Studies at Skidmore.
Posted: 2006/12/10 3:36 PM

Dangerous Experts – December 7, 2006
An article on unschooling was published in the New York Times Education section on November 26 under the headline “Home Schoolers Content to Take Children’s Lead.” It has since been published by a number of other media outlets, including the International Herald Tribune, where it was headlined “In extreme form of home schooling, kids call the shots.” The writer, Susan Saulny, (who wrote an earlier story about homeschooling last June) provides a pretty good description of a couple of unschooling families. However, she apparently portrayed Pat(rick) Farenga of Holt Associates as a woman in the original version and a correction was posted with the web version of the article, which does make one question the accuracy of the rest of the piece! Did she even interview him?!

I normally wouldn’t be concerned about that sort of error, but the article raises some red flags for me. Saulny states that this “most extreme application of the [homeschooling] movement’s ideas” is “a cause of growing concern among some education officials and social scientists.” The only such person she names is Luis Huerta, a professor of public policy and education at Teachers College of Columbia University, who told her, “It is not clear to me how they will transition to a structured world and meet the most basic requirements for reading, writing and math.”

Huerta is quoted in both of Saulny’s pieces as a national researcher whose focus includes homeschooling. But that statement made me wonder what homeschoolers on what planet he’s been researching...and what he’s doing in an article on unschooling. His webpage doesn’t even mention “unschooling” and the only mention of homeschooling is in the context of charter schools and public school policy. He has a Ph.D. in “Policy, Organizations, Measurement, and Evaluation.” A Google search on his name turns up many versions of the NY Times stories, as well as a paper entitled “Cyber and Home School Charter Schools: How States are Defining New Forms of Public Schooling” and a similar chapter in a book that’s for sale on Amazon.com. I wonder if Saulny is so source-challenged that she’s used him as the basis for her statement that “there is scant data on the educational results of unschooling, and little knowledge about whether the thousands of unschooled children fare better or worse than regularly schooled students.” That, of course, is nonsense.

Either this is a case of someone pretending to know something he doesn’t or a bad case of academic arrogance. I’d say both, along with some bad reporting. Saulny keeps inferring that unschooling is worrisome: “Some worry that the general public is unaware of the movement’s laissez-faire approach to learning.” Who, precisely, is worrying? Huerta? Saulny? I hope that’s all it’s about. Otherwise, with all the media attention these days on unschooling – including what I hear was a dumb Dr. Phil show – someone more paranoid than I am might think it’s the beginning of an active school industry attack against unschooling.

Read carefully this quote from Huerta in Saulny’s piece: “As school choice expands and home-schooling in general grows, this [meaning unschooling] is one of those models that I think the larger public sphere needs to be aware of because the folks who are engaging in these radical forms of school are doing so legally. If the public and policy makers don’t feel that this is a form of schooling that is producing productive citizens, then people should vote to make changes accordingly.”

That’s dangerous stuff…unless this alarming comment was taken out of context. I’ve written him to ask. At the same time, I have suggested that he figure out the different between “schooling”  and “education.”
Posted: 2006/12/07 10:56 AM

Nurturing Strengths, Not Protecting Weaknesses – December 1, 2006
One of the many things I admire about my two 30-something daughters is their strength. Did their dad and I role model that? Sure, their grandmothers too. It helped that they didn’t go to school and thus retained their self-esteem. I think what contributed most was our respect for and trust in them – trust that they’d learn what they needed, that their opinions mattered, that they knew what was best for themselves – knowing without a doubt that they were strong, capable people.

I’m just putting the finishing touches on the January/February 2007 issue of Life Learning magazine, which goes to press early next week. And I’ve noticed that nurturing our children’s strength is a theme that runs through a number of the articles in this issue (and I guess in most of the articles we publish in every issue.) Sandra Rakovac writes about how what we often think of as protection is actually taking away an individual’s power and, as such, is counterproductive to the development of confident, strong, capable personalities. Julie Persons shares how her young son learned to manage his own TV watching, in spite of the fear that he would “become a professional TV watcher.” Deborah Dyson is watching her life learning teens demonstrate strength of character as they become adults looking for new ways to interact as a family.

Marion Cohen points out that the tyranny of wanting to do the right thing for our unschooled children can cause us to replace school-type “authorities” with a seemingly more benign homeschool-type…but authorities nonetheless. This authority can ignore children’s strengths and streamroll their autonomy.

These parents have all learned to trust that when exposed to the wonders of the world, children will learn what they need to know. They know that when we try to turn their every experience into a “teaching moment,” we weaken them in many ways and turn our home into the very school we’re trying to avoid.

These are tricky lessons. We want to trust our children to grow, to learn and to thrive. But the world can seem like a frightening place and bringing children into it is a massive responsibility. But what are we fearful of? The late Catholic author and philosopher Thomas Merton had this to say about fear and its effects: “At the root of all war is fear – not so much the fear that men (sic) have of one another as the fear they have of everything. It is not merely that they do not trust one another; they do not even trust themselves.” Perhaps learning to trust ourselves as parents will help us trust our children to develop their own strengths.
Posted: 2006/12/01 10:12 PM

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What I'm Reading:

The Ingenuity Gap by Thomas Homer-Dixon (Knopf, 2000)
The God Delusion
by Richard Dawkins (Houghton-Mifflin, 2006)
Building With Cob
by Adam Weismann & Katy Bryce (Green Books, Ltd., 2006)

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Bach Violin Concertos by Itzhak Perlman and Pinchas Zukerman with the English Chamber Orchestra (EMI, 2001)
Wintersong
by Sarah McLachlan (Nettwerk Productions, 2006)
Half the Perfect World
by Madeleine Peyroux (Rounder Records, 2006)

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